Partner Abuse & Sexual Violence

Partner abuse happens in lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, and straight communities and crosses all social, ethnic, racial, and economic lines. An individual’s size, strength, politics, gender presentation, or personality does not determine whether s/he can be abused or an abuser.  Partner abuse is a recurring and chronic pattern of behaviors where one person tries to control the thoughts, beliefs, or actions of their partner, someone they are dating or someone they had an intimate relationship with.  Partner abuse is also called domestic violence, battering, and/or intimate partner abuse.   Those who abuse may use a number of behaviors to control their partner including:

  • Emotional Abuse: verbal abuse, lying, undermining self esteem, humiliation, monitoring whereabouts, threats, and/or intimidation
  • Physical Abuse: pushing, hitting, punching, choking, withholding medications or hormones, sleep deprivation
  • Sexual Abuse: rape, forcing sex and/or sex with others, exposure to HIV or sexually transmitted infections.
  • Economic Abuse: controlling money & resources, forcing to live above means, stealing, identity theft
  • Cultural/Identity Abuse: threat of outing partner’s sexual orientation, gender identity, S/M, polyamory, HIV status, or any other personal information. Using partner’s race, class, age, immigration status, religion, size, physical ability, language, and/or ethnicity, against them.

No one has the right to abuse and no one deserves to be abused.

  • The Network / La Red

    • 617.742.4911
    • While all TNLR services are free, currently their hotline is not toll-free, so any regular pay phone or long distances charges will apply. If you are able to provide a call back number a hotline staff can call you back. You may also call SafeLink, 1-877-785-2020 (v) 1-877-521-2601 (TTY) the toll-free 24-hour Massachusetts statewide domestic violence hotline and asked to be connected to The Network/La Red.
  • Gay Men’s Domestic Violence Project | GMDVP

    • 800.832.1901 = 24-hour hotline
  • Show Me Love
  • Boston Area Rape Crisis Center (BARCC) | Teen Survivor
    • 800.841-8371 = 24-hour hotline
  • Llámanos – Spanish-language Sexual Assault Hotline
    • 800.223.5001